problem
The problem is that the problem is often the solution: or rather, what we’ve just always done is sometimes a coping mechanism, and often a flawed coping mechanism. That which has become addictive behavior is often the cure we have always used to enable us to feel better.
With the click of a mouse: laptop, desktop, palm, phone and PDA, we can instantly escape from anxiety, fear, and everyday boredom. And pornography, sexual arousal, and seduction, to name a few examples, are instantly available, anonymous and highly addictive. Sound familiar? We’ve made promises vowing to cut down our use, renewed our efforts to quit downloading images that we canít get out of our minds. Over and over we return, unable to stop, often increasing in the quantity and intensity needed to achieve the desired effect.Perhaps weíve had affairs, maybe repeatedly, and maybe even in spite of the threat of severe negative consequences such as separation and divorce, or termination from our job. Sex addiction can take over a life as quickly as any drug addiction, and can become potentially far more destructive.
solution
The intensive weekend workshops for men and for couples are designed to jump start the process of healing and recovery from sexual addiction. The intensive workshops are designed for men and for couples, and take place over a weekend so that busy and demanding work schedules are respected.
Group support for men occurs on Wednesdays from 8:00pm- 9:30pm.
Private sessions are also available by appointment and provide the individualized, focused treatment needed to establish and maintain recovery. Private sessions are scheduled simply by calling Bob Weaver, (312-320-0341).
Over the course of our work together, we will create effective strategies targeted for long-term success using the following:
- Breaking through denial
- Understanding orders of change
- Establishing sobriety (when necessary)
- Damage control
- Re-establishing trust and empathy
- Positive sexual focus
- Preventing relapse
- Understanding the neurochemical process
We will create a welcoming, supportive and structured environment. We will invite healing from underlying shame and guilt that propels the addiction. We will explore the nature of healthy intimacy, and plan for prevention of subsequent relapse.
specifics
Complex and long-standing problems require creative and comprehensive tools.
Here are a few to consider:
contact
Bob Weaver, M.Div., LCSW, CSAT is a psychotherapist whose offices are located in Oak Park. Bob has been providing psychotherapeutic services for over 20 years, and has been in private practice for the past seven years. “I have treated individuals, couples and families from adolescents to elders, and have experienced success in providing treatment to a wide variety of emotional and mental issues.” Bob has provided therapy in inpatient settings, in schools throughout Chicago, outpatient clinics and in the juvenile detention center. Bob received training in sex addiction treatment from Patrick Carnes (Donít Call it Love, In The Shadows of The Net, etc.).
David Rennard, M.Div. LCSW, CSAT: Practices psychotherapy in Wheaton, and also received training from Patrick Carnes. David is an ordained minister of the United Church of Christ. He has been providing therapy in a group private practice as well as his own solo practice for a number of years.
For questions, to schedule an appointment for a private session, or to register for the Recovery JumpStart program, please contact Bob Weaver, 312-320-0341. Email: bob@recoveryjumpstart.com
For David Rennard, in Glen Ellyn and Sycamore, call 708-769-1509. Email: aspencounseling@wowway.com